tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post2153208639244678975..comments2024-03-25T17:56:01.825-04:00Comments on Insecure Writer's Support Group: More About Cross-PollinationAlex J. Cavanaughhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-84392236988822658302018-10-27T13:51:48.909-04:002018-10-27T13:51:48.909-04:00I have so many interests outside of writing that s...I have so many interests outside of writing that sometimes I just give into the urge to indulge them and ignore writing. I learned early on in working with editors to step away when their suggestions irritated me. It felt so personal when they were only trying to make my writing better. It's interesting to hear where that anger comes from. Stupid lizard brain.Susan Gourley/Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-64323091462769255082018-10-14T00:18:07.869-04:002018-10-14T00:18:07.869-04:00For me, there's criticism and there's atta...For me, there's criticism and there's attack. Unfortunately, because of being bullied throughout school and having perfectionistic parents who inadvertently raised me to believe that I couldn't do anything right no matter how hard I tried, attacks tend to make me flare up and then shut down and become mired in self-doubt. I appreciate constructive criticism, i.e. "Cie, this paragraph is confusingly worded, and you never mentioned this character before." Sometimes when one is writing, one is so mired in their own Universe that they forget that other people are visitors and need an explanation of the characters and various events.<br />Constructive criticism helps writers and artists to build and grow rather than to become discouraged and walk away.<br />It's easy to say that we should just ignore the kind of toxic schmucks who enjoy attacking others' creations. Maybe some people are self-assured enough to do that and walk away unscathed. I'm not, although becoming older and meaner, I have developed a degree of self-esteem which allows me to blow off the kinds of losers who delight in causing harm.Ornery Owl of Naughty Netherworld Press and Readers Roost https://www.blogger.com/profile/07596105116325246476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-9150686697159106172018-10-12T22:45:04.128-04:002018-10-12T22:45:04.128-04:00I think it's hard not to shut down when someon...I think it's hard not to shut down when someone criticizes my work, especially because I view my work as central to who I am. I think it depends on how the criticism is delivered. If a person is brutally honest, I'm more likely to get defensive. But if the person gives constructive criticism, then it's easier to accept it.Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-36265711435718936432018-10-11T10:39:15.855-04:002018-10-11T10:39:15.855-04:00It's tough to find out that we're not alwa...It's tough to find out that we're not always right. I think one of the things that's helped me to be a little more open-minded (not so much that my brains fall out, mind you) is that I regularly dispense (hopefully) helpful criticism to others through my work. Why should I think others shouldn't provide the same for me if it's needed?Lynda Dietzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15442214431341019380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-11913918437647733672018-10-10T19:46:06.960-04:002018-10-10T19:46:06.960-04:00Art of all kinds comes from the wellspring our of ...Art of all kinds comes from the wellspring our of our essence as humans. I know they’re interconnected and affect each other. You’ve made me think of another article! Thanks Michelle. leecleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-44057399929196242092018-10-10T16:59:01.733-04:002018-10-10T16:59:01.733-04:00Always good advice: Keep openminded and pursue you...Always good advice: Keep openminded and pursue your goals:) Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01793077012143289985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-29329941841930585212018-10-09T14:07:14.671-04:002018-10-09T14:07:14.671-04:00Lee, I love the Cross-Pollination train of thought...Lee, I love the Cross-Pollination train of thought. It mirrors a question that has played on my mind for quite a while now...<br />How do different art forms impact on one another?<br />For example, the concept of rhythm is one that applies to both writing and music. <br />Something to think about...<br />Michelle Wallacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02750092836481599870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-59550947723792619152018-10-09T13:33:13.424-04:002018-10-09T13:33:13.424-04:00I think the first reaction of most people is to ge...I think the first reaction of most people is to get angry at a negative review. Once that has passed, I think it's possible to step back and take a look at it. Sometimes one can pick up some helpful advice if one has an open mind. Sherry Ellishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844837212122243321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-60483141775188138912018-10-09T12:28:01.416-04:002018-10-09T12:28:01.416-04:00I'm pleased to see that so many of you like to...I'm pleased to see that so many of you like to reach out and learn from all different kinds of people. Pat you restated it perfectly. I heard about the Tipping Point, Diane, but haven't read it. I loved Hilary's comment about making our own education. And Natalie, how great that you're involved in a theater group. That must be such fun and very rewarding. Waving at Michael. Great to see you here. cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-70571875179067558022018-10-09T01:39:40.871-04:002018-10-09T01:39:40.871-04:00That is great advice. I suppose they say writing i...That is great advice. I suppose they say writing is life, so it makes sense that everything can become a story or advice. Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-45779262777842016572018-10-08T22:25:46.793-04:002018-10-08T22:25:46.793-04:00Being involved in a theater group has given me the...Being involved in a theater group has given me the opportunity to see another form of art that is different than writing but in some ways the same. I could relate to a lot of this, both in terms of writing and life in general.Natalie Aguirrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756087804171246660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-657021541333332432018-10-08T15:35:11.452-04:002018-10-08T15:35:11.452-04:00Great post. Thoughts for fodder. Great post. Thoughts for fodder. Juneta keyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08815758043024184034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-35474957670324657752018-10-08T12:54:22.482-04:002018-10-08T12:54:22.482-04:00Hi Lee - love this and I'll be back to refer t...Hi Lee - love this and I'll be back to refer to again and no doubt again. This is very similar to the disciplines working together at the Oxford Martin School I mentioned in my #WATWB in August ... and I've been following up on James Martin - who as Bill Gates describes 'is indeed an influential technology leader'. So I'll be coming back to your post ... thanks for reminding us ... that we need to not just get an education: but make one. I've been reading books in this direction ... <br /><br />Excellent post - thanks ... cheers HilaryHilary Melton-Butcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596532480645510678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-84749381914054574562018-10-08T12:13:13.758-04:002018-10-08T12:13:13.758-04:00Now this is very interesting, Lee... I absolutely ...Now this is very interesting, Lee... I absolutely like to hear opinions from others who are in different fields. W can learn from everyone.... Thanks for sharing!<br />Michael Di Gesuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17047267262428143113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-67773285441409148822018-10-08T08:40:41.846-04:002018-10-08T08:40:41.846-04:00I need to see if he has a book out. Success princi...I need to see if he has a book out. Success principles are the same no matter what and we can learn from those poised for other markets and opportunities. I learned a lot from a book called The Tipping Point.L. Diane Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425864276166334896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-60458284132110769372018-10-08T07:31:51.978-04:002018-10-08T07:31:51.978-04:00Learning from people in other fields/places is gre...Learning from people in other fields/places is great. And I'd rather be wrong a thousand times than be right once. Why? Because, if you're willing, you learn way more from being wrong than you ever do from being right. If you're right, you learn mostly nothing as you already know the answer.Pat Hatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745293224202430152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-9973308809806555472018-10-08T07:25:04.217-04:002018-10-08T07:25:04.217-04:00That makes sense. How many people dig in and fight...That makes sense. How many people dig in and fight for their viewpoint, right or not? Because we'd rather be right than find the right way and it's not our own.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3136420115688099157.post-17332614143004552832018-10-08T05:48:56.848-04:002018-10-08T05:48:56.848-04:00This is most interesting to read, I have no garden...This is most interesting to read, I have no garden only house plants.<br />Thanks for sharing this post.<br /><br />Yvonne.nashvillecats2https://www.blogger.com/profile/02326956741209246895noreply@blogger.com