V is for Value.
I used to believe that once I was published my life would have more value. My presence on earth would make sense. I wouldn't simply be taking up space.
Yes, I was wrong.
People have value for who they are, not for what they do.
Yet, what is our first reaction when we receive a rejection or worse a bad review? Our value diminishes before our eyes. We think we're no good. We're lousy writers. We should never have thought we could write. Our value is worthless.
We live to write, but how well we write, how successful we are doesn't measure our value.
Next time you hear that negative speech inside your head, remember you're not here to write. You're writing because you're here. Your value arrived before the story.
Well said! Our value comes from who we are on the inside.ReplyDelete
That last line sure holds a lot of truth indeed. Here with my rhyming rearReplyDelete
"Your value arrived before the story." Thank you for the reminder. We tend to forget this... very quickly!ReplyDelete
Lovely sentiments. Words of the wise. Thanks!ReplyDelete
You are writing because you are here. Lovely feeling.ReplyDelete
The final line sums it up and is a good reminder.ReplyDelete
Thanks for this inspiring post. It's very important in dealing with ourselves and also teaching our children not to tie self esteem to accomplishment. It can be pretty dangerous and have long lasting effects. It is more appropriate to value effort, self and learning.ReplyDelete
No matter how much remind ourselves not to take things personally, those rejections and bad reviews sometimes feel very personal. Being a professional writer means separating our work from our person.ReplyDelete
You've done a masterful job of putting value where value lies. I loved this post.ReplyDelete
"You're writing because you're here. Your value arrived before the story."ReplyDelete
It's true... if we think back at our writing we have touched at least one reader. That, in itself, has merit and value beyond words...
deep down we long for acceptability as writersReplyDelete
Low self-esteem is hard to combat. We need to have motivational posts like this served up every day! :)ReplyDelete
Hi Joylene - you've touched some true nerves here and reminded us to come back down to earth, and remain there - we are needed, we are of value .. and we can help, we can set standards and we can just be ... ourselves ... wonderful read - cheers HilaryReplyDelete
I think I need to bookmark this so I can return to it on days that I need a pep talk :)ReplyDelete
So true, Joylene. We tie our value to things that really shouldn't determine how we feel about ourselves.ReplyDelete
That's pretty deep. <3ReplyDelete
So true, Joylene. There is so much we can't control so no need to attache our self-worth to what we can or cannot do. I value me even if others don't. (Although sometimes I know I'm too hard on myself, just like you wrote about.)ReplyDelete